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What is the essay essentially about? What is the author's purpose for writing this essay? Choose one significant idea Sharples' desires to convey(communicate) to her audience). Explain the idea.
Sharples argues that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire."discuss this quote as it relates to the article.
Do you agree or disagree? Why? draw a connection to the outside world (something you read about or learned about or researched? )
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The essay “Young Love” written by Tiffany Sharples, discusses the different types of love humans show from early childhood to adults. Sharples presents three categories of “love”, the first one being infancy and babyhood, followed by toddlerhood and preschool, and lastly school age and puberty. The type of love babies show is touch and facial expressions, releasing a chemical called Oxytocin-the cuddling chemical- which makes a mother and father feel that their baby is irresistible. The toddlerhood love presents that kids are learning about sensual pleasures, such as having crushes on teachers, aunts or uncles. “In some instances, the kids became overwhelmed with emotion, as in the case of a five year old girl who wept at the thought of a boy she would never see again. “Little kids fall in love too” (Sharples 420). The school age/puberty love is when boys and girls become sexually active, yet aren’t even sexually matured yet. “Girls focus more heavily – but hardly exclusively – on romantic fantasies” (Sharples 420). The essay has the same idea shared throughout the different stages, love is the hardest social role that humans can play.
ReplyDeleteThe idea that kids who grow up in homes that don’t have loving parental figures or kids that do experience warmth in their home are more likely to start engaging in sexual behavior and more frequently. Kids who are a freshman throughout their junior year are not even sexually matured yet, so regardless if you come from a warm social environment at home or not, young kids are not ready for that type of “love.” Also, the idea of hooking up, a very short informal way of sexual experience, does not benefit for young kids’ future relationships, making them think that short term relationships are acceptable and normal. “Manning’s studies suggest that hooking up prevents kids from practicing the interpersonal skills they’ll need in a permanent relationship and may lead to lower expectations of what those relationships should be like – and a greater willingness to settle for less” (Sharples 422).
“Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire” (Sharples 418). Adults and young kids have their own way of expressing and viewing love. Nobody is perfect, but with love you get the chance to experience right from wrong, learn and go on adventures, and make memories with people which you can learn from. Learning from an experience is what makes a person thrive. In order to become knowledgeable of something you must understand the basics, even if you don’t understand it at first you must try. For example, an assignment we had to watch was the PBS Documentary “Time For School”. Many kids did not receive love at home so learning from their experience, as they grew up they realized that their future kids would receive better attention at home, thus creating them to live a better life. We saw these examples such as Neeraj and Nanavi in the PBS documentary. Both women decided to give their child a different type of love, a type of love that would change their child’s life forever.
The essay is about falling in love at different stages in one’s life. Love is a learning process, as people grow they understand it a little more. The author’s purpose of this essay is to explain that people can fall in love at any age but no one is born knowing exactly how to be a romantic. Sharples choses to convey that from the moment we are born, we are constantly learning through experiences and practice. For example, babies must learn how to “woo” people around them by flirting in order to make people love them.
ReplyDelete“Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire.” No one is born being perfect at romance, they have to learn through experiences and practice. It’s a tough skill to perfect because everyone has different perspectives. “But the only way to acquire the skills to conduct a lifetime relationship is to practice on ones you may destroy in the process” (Sharples 421). As young adults, relationships are usually short and there are many lessons embedded in them. There is no right or wrong way to be in a relationship, it’s based on learning as you go and understanding what the other person does or does not like.
I agree with this because the learning process does not stop regardless of your age. Couples learn more about each other everyday through conversations, arguments, and experiences shared. The love a person receives at home plays an important role in their future and how they treat others. For example, the Menendez brothers were sexually abused by their parents and were not shown love as they grew up so they took their parents lives. Their childhood had a significant impact on how they lived the rest of their lives. The lessons they learned through this lack of love given to them by their parents led to a painful and traumatic future.
This essay is essential about how a child develops and learns how to create romantic relationships. It starts as an infant and is used throughout your whole entire life. The author wants to explain how we are born with the behavior of striving to create loving relationships with the people around you. Sharples says “one of the first skills newborns must learn is how to woo the adults in their world.” Newborns have not develop any skills at this early age but are born with the ability to be able to make adults interested in them. Sharples makes this point to show that we even when we are born we have to find ways to develop relationships.
ReplyDeleteThroughout our whole life we have to try and take on the task of understanding romance. It is a very complex topic to try and understand. Based off of the research that Sharples was able to gather on 75% of adults get married. That means 25 % of adults are not able to get a complete grip on romance. People start romantic relationships at many different ages. Some can start as early as age 4 while other might not develop a romantic relationship until they are in there 20’s.
Romance is extreme difficult to understand especially during this time period that we live in. Many people today have trouble having conversations in person because of the new technology created. Many teens today spend a lot of their time trying to understand romance. In order for these teens to fully understand romance they have to put their phones down and have conversations. This may be very uncomfortable and helps explain why romance is so difficult. Also male and females can have different views on what romance is. These different views can cause problems and make it even more difficult.
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ReplyDeleteThe essay, “Young Love” by Tiffany Sharples is mainly about the three stages of love separated by age groups. The three stages of love described in the essay were infancy and babyhood, toddlerhood and preschool, and school age and puberty. Sharpels purpose for writing this essay was to show the readers that love is an ongoing lesson that people acquire through experience. “If the purpose is to pick a mate for life, you’re hardly likely to find a suitable one on your very first go.” (Shaprel 4), meaning that it is very unlikely that you will find you potential husband or wife on the first attempt at love. People will learn more about themselves through loving another individual. You will find out what makes you angry, what you love, and how you go about making another individual feel special.
ReplyDeleteSharpel says, “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire.” The reason for that is because you can’t read about love and truly understand what it is. The only way to understand what romance is, is to experience it for yourself. According to Sharpels research, 75% of adults get married. In conclusion, 25% of adults didn’t learn romance to its full potential. Going a whole life time and not learning a skill means that the skill is an extreme feat to conquer.
I agree with this statement because there is no possible way to study every situation that can occur in a relationship. Romance is an ongoing learning experience for both of the people in the relationship. Everyday one partner can learn something about themselves, or about the other person just by a reaction to a new situation that arises. Men and women also have different view points on what romance is. According to sharpel, “Boys experiment more with sexually explicit vocabulary and later, sexual fantasies. Girls focus more heavily on romantic fantasies.” (Sharpel 4) That is also another learning experience that both parties have to learn.
In “Young Love” by Tiffany Sharples, Sharples discussing the different types of love and romantic expressions that humans encounter through out there lives. For example, Sharples first discusses the relationship between a baby and their parents, this love consists of babies “flirting” with their parents through facial expressions. Also, new parents find it very difficult to keep their hands of their newborns. Next is the toddler and preschools relationships, toddlers begin to explore their bodies and create bonds through speaking and friendships. Finally, school age and puberty is when children start to develop sexual connections and experiment with sexual partners. I found it very interesting how, “Boys experiment more with sexually vocabulary and, later, sexual fantasies. Girls focus more heavily-but hardly exclusively-on romantic fantasies” (Sharples 420). This shows the differences in the mentality between males and females.
ReplyDeleteSharples argues that "Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire." This quote emphasizes how important romantic relationships are to the development of a child. Even though we do not realize it, we create romantic relationships with our parents when we are born. We do this because we rely on them for everything. This relationship guides us into sexual relationships during puberty, because we flirt with partners like we did with our parents when we were born.
This quote can connect to the discussions that we have during class. During class we speak about how important certain relationships may be to our livelihood. For example, we need friends and romantic partners to grow and thrive as a person. Even though someone may have a lot of friends, if they do not have a connection with these people on a deeper meaning than they are useless. This is why we must make personal connections with people so we can develop social skills. It is good to have un-close friends, but it is way more important to have those few very important friends that you can trust for anything.
In the essay “Young Love” by Tiffany Sharples, the author explains how humans are exposed to love from the very beginning of their life to the very end of their life. The process of forming relationships and learning to love is an ongoing lesson that is taught starting at a very young age. It all begins with the baby stage. Babies are desperate for love and attention. They immediately learn how to win someone over with their smile or even their facial expressions. This type of love between a parent and their child is innocent. It is the first type of love anyone ever experiences. As a child develops and grows, they experience a new type of love, the toddlerhood/preschool love. Children seek love and attention from others now that the baby stage is over. They also explore and discover more about love and relationships than they previously have. After this stage comes the more complicated stage, the puberty/school age. This is when boys and girls become sexually active and begin looking for partners. From this point on, individuals will continue to learn about love. People fall in and out of love only to gain more knowledge and experience on their complex romantic roles in society. I believe that this is the purpose of the article, to show the reader that there is more to love and romance than what is originally thought and the only way to understand it is to experience it. I also believe the authors purpose of the article was to shine light on the idea that love not only enables us to learn about our significant other but also about ourselves. As we experience romance, we also acquire a great amount of knowledge about ourselves such as what we like or what we hate.
ReplyDeleteSharples argues that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire." This quote relates back to the article because romance is more than just liking someone or having a crush on somebody. Romance takes skill and experience. However, the experience may not always be easy. An individual must go through relationships, crushes, heart breaks, or whatever else it may be in order to fully understand the concept of love.
I agree with this quote because loving someone is not easy. At first, it is actually quite simple. As babies, we accept just about any love offered to us. However, as we grow it becomes more complicated. Individuals tend to seek love as they get older, pushing themselves to find a relationship when it is much more difficult than that. Relationships are formed between two people who are compatible, not between two people who are lonely or bored. Romance requires one to be experienced and intelligent. We must be aware of what it takes to love, what one must sacrifice to love, what it is to be loved, etc. If one is not aware of all of the components of romance and love, they can be setting themselves up for a bad relationship, heart break, etc. For example, often children who don’t receive love and attention from their parents as children often grow up finding it harder to provide love and care for someone else. One must experience love to be able to love. If one lacks relationships and love, it will have a huge impact on them.
Tiffany Sharples on her article Young Love explains how we all experience love. Love is an explicit topic, however, the author explains how love works in our lifestyle. This article explains how love is a mechanism of survival covered in emotions. These explanations given are constantly supported by studies. She shows us there are purposes of why love develops this way. Everything begins with the babies. As infants, they are incapable to help themselves. Therefore, they develop ways to take the adults' attention. As the individual grows up, they start self-discovering. They begin to experience new emotion also known as "their-first-love" around the ages of five and eight. Once they first hit puberty, the article explains how they struggle with their own personality. Overall, the article suggests that experience different relationships will allow us to have better relationships in the future. Indeed, without love, we wouldn't be able to exist. Love is an emotional way of survival.
ReplyDeleteSharples based her point on what the studies showed her. In comparison to language, learning love takes much longer than another way of communication. As article shows, for a human, it takes five years to learn how to speak, however, it takes the same human almost eighteen years to learn love. For someone to love, it takes a deeper understanding of what really matters. As she also mentions, adults spent almost 60% of their life married. Data shows that what we had done in our early stage in life could affect how we seek relationships. It deeply could be a painful experience not being capable to learn this skill.
I definitely agree with this article. We all have different willings when it comes to love. Mostly, once starting a relationship, people attend to become more explicit to their partners. However, if the relationship does not work out, people attend to grow from their mistakes. Personally, I had experienced so many disappointments in love. However, I notice that every time I start a new relationship, I am better than before. This is proof that the article is accurate in most part. In the other side. People sometimes experience different emotions towards love.
This essay is about the development of our social-emotional skills during the different stages of our life. I feel like the author’s purpose in writing the article is to show that while we go about exploring romance and the opposite sex quite naturally, there are points in life in which social dynamics change and speed up this process. One significant idea Sharples’ desires to convey to her audience is that strong relationships will almost always develop in everyone’s lifetime and that we are being prepared for it from early in our lives. She says that “In the United States, by the time we’re eighteen, about 80 percent of us have had at least one meaningful romantic relationship”(Sharples, 422). Sharples highlights how this happens both as a young child with displays of affection towards caregivers, and later on in life when interest in the opposite sex begins to increase.
ReplyDeleteSharples states the “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire” (Sharples, 418). This relates to the articles in many different ways. For starters, it highlights that romance is a skill, meaning that while there are natural stages as pointed out in the article, at some point you have to put your foot forward and push that development. Sharples says later in the article that “the only way to acquire the skills to conduct a lifetime relationship is to practice on the ones you might destroy in the process” (Sharples, 421). Trial and error is a part of developing anything, and while it’s a shame that negative feelings and emotion can be sprung as a part of this process, it is important that everyone goes through it.
I can definitely say I agree with the quote. It’s up to you to act upon your feelings and follow your social path, thus improving your ability to communicate with others in the process. The communication is very important in any relationship but it is imperative in an intimate-romantic one. When adolescent relationships fail it’s often because we haven’t fully developed these skills or have the maturity to sustain something like that.
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ReplyDeleteIn the essay, "Young Love" by Tiffany Sharples, an interesting author, she describes how there are different stages of love between infancy and adulthood. The author, Tiffany Sharples illustrates how babies interact with their parents. They manage to smile by the time they're six weeks old and react to anyone paying attention to them, much like adults flirting. The author's purpose in this article is to define the similarities between how love and attraction have changed for a child from childhood to adulthood.
ReplyDeleteFor example, Sharples argues that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire. Sharples states that "If the purpose is to pick a mate for life, you're hardly likely to find a suitable one on your first go" (Sharples 421). In both quotes they show how people change throughout their life, and a mate that is obtainable at sixteen years old, may not be compatible at thirty years old. In my opinion, I agree with both quotes because I've witnessed firsthand with my own family and their quest to find love is important.
All in all, the most challenging problems as individuals is we have a necessity/desire to find and obtain love. Although, finding "the one" can be a very difficult task to achieve at. Thus proving, time will only determine what path as individuals we take for our own opinion on relationships.
In the essay “Young Love” by Tiffany Sharples, the concept of love is discussed in different degrees throughout childhood and adolescence. She discusses how early we as humans begin developing love as a feeling and the ability to romance another person as infants. She further discusses how as toddlers, we crave affection and attention from adults like our parents and others like aunts, uncles and teachers. In adolescence and our school years we begin to interact with our peers of the opposite sex. Our first forms of interaction are usually in the school on playgrounds playing games. As teenagers, sexual experimentation begins and our interactions with the opposite sex are more frequent. Coed social groups are more common and the many risks of sexual behavior come to the forefront.
ReplyDeleteIn her essay Sharples argues that “Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll be called on to acquire”(Sharples). This quote shows the importance of the role that romance plays in love and an intimate relationship. Without romance love would not be as special as it can be. Romance is also not a skill that we are born with we learn it from those around us that set an example like our parents. This shows how big of an influence that our upbringing has on our future as not only lovers but as human beings. Not all love happens at first sight and without romance many people would not develop a strong intimate relationship. Romance can have a tremendous impact on how we treat our partners in relationships, and how they treat us.
I agree that romance is an important and difficult that we all must learn. The only way to learn it is through experience. We go from an awkward young child taking a chance “asking someone out”, to eventually a confident lover who understands how to treat our partner and how to show them affection. This is also acquired through our experiences at home. If our parents show us affection, or if we see our parents are in a healthy and mutual loving relationship it will influence us positively and set a good example. This can be related to the documentary we watched “Time For School” in which the children’s future lives are greatly influenced by their childhoods. Kids like Joab and Neeraj did not receive enough affection from their parents so later in their lives they strayed from school and further success in life and expressed regret about losing their way. This resulted from a lack of positive influence from their parents.
The essay essentially explained the ways in which we learn to love, and express this feeling. The article, and personal experience displays that, as a child we believe that our youth or we personally are “too young” to have a love for a significant other. The article then begins to break down the specific love experienced in the different aspects and years of our lives. The subtopics begin with infancy and range to school age and puberty. For example in the text, “There's a very fine line between being thrilled and being terrified, Candice Feiring saw both emotions on her son's face” (Young Love, 1). Within this portion of the text we learn that adolescents, specifically this sixth grader, is beginning to learn the beginning stages of love outside the normal family realm. Through the writing piece we are presented with the ways in which love evolves and changes, and how the various experiences make us who we are.
ReplyDeleteRomance is defined as a a feeling of excitement and mystery that’s associated with love. We as humans attempt to master this ideal in our relationships in order to have a “perfect love story”. The author of the writing piece extrapolates her personal opinion on the topic when she explains that, “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire”. This quote explains that although we all try very hard to master the art of romance, it can be beyond difficult to complete. The writer also compares this task to the task of understanding language, as citizens of variations of cultures, origins, and societies, language specifically like romance can be nearly impossible to master. This overall relates to the article because as we go through the motions and develop in life, the way we perceive and experience love changes, and can be nearly impossible to understand.
I agree that love changes as we develop and it's nearly impossible to become “the master of love and romance” because not only does society and people change, the way in which we love does as well. Romance and love cannot be limited to a specific set of steps or rules to follow. Throughout life the way in which we grow and develop changes our perspective on love and the people in which we choose to love. As the essay shows, from the moment we are born we are exposed to forms of love within our family, and the eventually from our friends and love interests. Each person learns to love through what they personally experience, and it creates hardship because all of our perspectives, experiences, and opinions differ.
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ReplyDeleteIn “Young Love”, but Tiffany Sharples, we learn that love is a developmental process. Starting from when you are a baby, you know what love is. You instantly have feelings of attraction towards those around you. As you begin to mature, you begin to love deeper and with a more close connection. Sharples broke the article into three categories, and explained that at different points in your life, you love differently. She even says that even as young children, sexual love and desire is present, we just articulate it differently. Sharples most likely wrote this essay to combat the idea that only adults experience certain displays of love, when in actuality, everyone experiences them to a certain degree.
ReplyDeleteSharples added to the article that kids who come from volatile or unloving homes often experience sexual desire, or start having sexual relations sooner than those who grow up in caring homes. I thought that this was interesting because I have never thought of that. From my own experiences with others, I can see that people I know that came from disrupted homes have started having sexual relations earlier, because they are trying to make up for the loves they didn’t receive. This also makes me relate it to young girls who grow up without fathers, because they are more likely to have sex at a young age because they are yearning for male approval.
I do agree that, “Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we will acquire.” (Sharples). For anyone who has tried to learn a language, it is not a simple task. It is hard to learn the proper language even if you grew up constantly hearing slang of that language. Romance, is something that is learned by watching those around you. People who grow up with two parents that have a great marriage are likely to also treat their spouse romantically. If you grow up never seeing a man take a woman on a date or get her flowers, or maybe a woman never cooking dinner for a man, you are less likely to do those things when you are older. People learn romance from movies and television, as well. If you watch a movie with a guy who takes his girl on a picnic to the beach, you may try and do something like that next time you are trying to win over a girl. However, romance in this aspect, though it is learned by seeing, it is something that constantly has to be worked towards because real romance is effortless and easy, and something many people even in their old age don’t achieve.
German social psychologist, Erich Fromm said, “The mother-child relationship is a paradoxical and, in a sense, tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother’s side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother, and to become fully independent.” A mother's love and affection will contribute to all future relationships a child will have. As babies we rely on our parents to keep us alive, as we get older we use the love and affection given to us as a basis of what future romantic relationships should be like. The amount of affection received can influence the rate in which one develops romantically, sexually, and emotionally. As we grow older we rely on traits learned from parents in order to help aid us in our romantic experiences.
ReplyDeleteAs children grow and begin to develop new relationships they acquire different traits based on early life and parental care. Babies, children, and teens all pick up skills from their parents that they think could help benefit future relationships. For example Tiffany Sharples explains, “Babies do this much the way adults do: by flirting. Within a couple months, infants may begin to move and coo, bob, and blink in concert with anyone paying attention to them.” (Sharples 2) This shows that even young infants can pick up on skills used by adults to help them get what they want. As these infants grow up their skills become more complex as relationships evolve.Tiffany Sharples argues that, “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire.” Sharples is saying that understanding romance is as difficult and complex as different languages. I would agree with this statement because everyone is different and has their own preferences and dislikes. While you may be attracted by many, it is impossible to be liked by everybody. This may make romantic relationships difficult because it may be harder to find self-acceptance. Romance is also difficult because both people have to feel the same way about each other and treat one another as equals. If one is more invested in the relationship than the other, that might put a strain on the couple.
As people develop so do relationships and how they are formed. Babies learn from their parents and that will be the basis of all future relationships. As parents cared for us we learned how we were to be treated and also helped set our standards a bit higher. Parental care helps aid the child in forming relationships so creating a good bond with your child can not only influence your future with your child, but your child's future with everyone else as well.
The essay “Young Love” by Tiffany Sharples is essentially about the different stages of romance a person experiences over time. This time starts from the moment we are born all the way throughout the rest of our lives. According to Sharples over time how we express and how we think about love changes. At a young age children love their parents and aren't afraid to say it. This is different than the love teenagers experience where hormones start racing and they can't stop thinking of the opposite sex. The authors purpose of writing this is to express the fact that all humans are born with love and that over time we begin to learn even more about it. One significant idea that Sharples talks about is how teenagers that live in more hostile households are more likely to have sex earlier than a teenager in a good household. These teenagers living in hostile households have different experiences when it comes to intimacy, they behave differently and are more prone to having sex at a young age. There is a direct correlation between households and the age a child has sex.
ReplyDeleteAn argument that Sharples made was that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire." Romance is a very difficult thing to understand and it only gets more complicated as you get older. More complex feelings begin to develop as age goes on and these feelings have an impact on your life. According to Sharples in the article 80% of people have been in a romantic relationship up to 18 years old, she also said that 75% of people end up getting married. These percentages prove how challenging romance can be. Not everyone in life finds romance because of the challenge. If it was easy then 100% of people would be married.
I agree with what Sharples said. Romance is a very complicated thing in life that can be a huge obstacle to overcome. Once you start to understand it I believe it will make a big positive impact on your life. Through romance we can fulfill our desires and learn more about the people we love. I can connect this to the movie “Good Will Hunting” throughout the movie you can see the main character Will so confused by romance. He has no understanding of it and when he eventually does he ends up follows what his heart desires to become happy.
Tiffany Sharples wrote the essay “Young Love” to educate the minds of individuals about the various types of ways that humans experience the feeling of love throughout the three stages of their life. At each stage of life beginning from infancy to adulthood, people’s level of affection intensifies as they grow older. Sharples states that “one of the first skills newborns must learn is how to woo the adults in their world”. The author wants to explain how individuals are born with the ability to love in order to create meaningful relationships with the people that they love and appreciate. From the moment we are born we are making memories, learning, and thriving from our life experiences.
ReplyDeleteIn the essay, Sharples states that “Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire”. To experience romance one has to experiment in order to understand and perceive the meaning of love. Love is one of the hardest things to understand because not everyone has the same way of showing their affection. For example, one may find materialistic items as sign of love while others may think actions speak louder than words. According to Sharples essay, 75% of adults are married, but what about the other 25%? This means that the other 25% of adults failed to experience and perceive the ability of love and romance. To have a person in your life to call your best friend and your lover is an extraordinary feeling. Everyone has a missing half to their heart, but with experience they will find fulfillment and intimacy with another individual.
I agree with Sharples quote because in order to love one needs experience. Romance makes the world go round and without it the world would be dull and lifeless. To have a feeling of comfort and warmth in one's heart can not be replicated. Your heart just wants more and more because the feelings of love are so strong and powerful. For example, a baby may smile or giggle in a delightful way, which then will make a close relative or loved one smile, laugh, or pinch the baby’s cheeks in response to the baby's laughter. Due to the reaction the baby was given, him/her will continue this action to receive the same warmth and joyous feeling as received before.
The essay is about the evolution and stages of love throughout our lives, starting from infancy. The purpose is to explain how we may experience love differently throughout the multiple stages in our lives. In the fourth paragraph of page 419, the author talks about how kids, around four-years-old, may tend to develop a crush on a teacher, or simply anyone. She says that this is because kids want to take on roles that make them act more like adults. As I think about this, I realize how true it is. Not in the specific field of love, but in general. It was always thrilling to buy your own Gatorade with your own money, for example. She quotes Andrew Collins who said, “Kids are trying to play out a set of roles and be more like adults”.
ReplyDeleteSharples says that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire." I agree with this quote. It may seem as simple as having feelings for another person, but it is much more than that. It leads into a big responsibility, and can be pressuring and overwhelming. Considering that eventually sex and its risks come into play, it’s a significant concept to learn. It will also take multiple relationships to truly learn the concept of romance. Sharples says, “What’s more, even if you did get lucky, you’d almost certainly not have the emotional wherewithal to keep the relationship going.” Here, she explains that it is possible to find “the one” in your first relationship, but it usually ends up being a weaker relationship than usual.
I understand the concept of the quote; however, I disagree. I believe that whether it’s your first relationship or your sixth doesn’t matter as long as you have feelings for a person. The kinds of feelings the two have will determine how far the relationship goes. The amount of experience they each have does play a role in this, but it shouldn’t be considered as the deciding factor of the strength of a relationship.
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In the article “Young Love” written by Sharples exemplifies the importance in relationships in three stages. First stage is “infancy and babyhood”, second stage is “toddlerhood and preschool” and lastly “school age and puberty”. Sharples purpose for this writing is to show how a baby learns to form loving relationships to becoming a sexual active adult. What steps lead to loving another person and how does a human being learn these important skills. For example, babies are very open when they love others. During toddlerhood relationships with the opposite sex are formed, creating a sense of intimacy. A crucial point Sharples said was “little kids can fall in love too”. This point is powerful because little kids have their own ideas about relationships. Although they aren’t fully developed mentally and physically, they still feel what “love” is like.
Sharples argues that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire. This point relates to the article because romance is something you have to build upon. Furthermore, picking a partner for life seems scary. How is the person going to help you grow? Finding a meaningful relationships begins with at birth. Healthy relationships with parents to puberty is an important aspect in understanding romance, and most importantly relationships.
I agree with Sharples because i believe when a baby has a loving relationship with a parent, it sets a positive example in the future. Personally i believe before you love someone, you need to love yourself. Loving yourself is the key in discovering romance and loving relationships.
ReplyDeleteIn the essay “ Young Love” by Tiffany Sharples, the author shows how children use various ways to making people love them and to get other people’s attention for survival. The author’s purpose is there is no perfect age to love someone and age does not matter to love somebody.
“Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever called on to acquire.” This quote explains romance is difficult to learn and studying romance is endless. People can not learn romance from reading a book. People need to fall in love with somebody to learn what love or romance is. Also, people use roman to find their partner. In order to find partner, people need to keep learn and practice romance until they find right way to find their partner.
I agree with this statement because people have various perspectives. For example, there are some people like action movie but there are other people who don’t like action movie. We need to know what kinds of different ways to impress people and to make them love me.
Isabella Reyes
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English 101
“Young Love” Response
In “Young Love” by Tiffany Sharples, she dives into the different and unique stages of love and romance that us humans encounter over the course of our lives starting from babies. For example, Sharples starts off by explaining how the early stages of infancy and babyhood there is a connection between parents and babies. Babies interact with their parents by “flirting” through facial expressions such as “smiling, blinking in concert with anyone who is paying attention to them, etc.” (Sharples 418). As we progress overtime, these “flirting” methods are similarly used. As toddlers craving attention from our family members. As an adolescence, we begin to interact similarly, but in unique ways by using “forms of erotic play such as teasing and chasing the opposite sex” (Sharples 420). As we progress to our teenage years, flirting and experimentation are definitely more common between opposite sexes and play a significant role in forming future relationships if any.
Sharples argues that “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire.” This shows the significance of how forming romantic loving relationships can be crucial to the development of a child. Without love and romance, our behaviors would be completely altered. It all started from when we were babies by forming a romantic connection between our parents without realizing it. Consequently, being raised by our parents and forming the deep love connection we built with them shapes us into how our future romantic relationships will develop.
I agree that romance may be one of the hardest skills to acquire. I truly believe that going through different learning experiences if your life such as the simplicity of learning how to talk, open up, and trust somebody, all the way to forming friendly or intimate relationships with people can be challenging. Although relationships can be formed on a day to day basis, depending on the type of person and how someone was raised: For example, the love and affection they received in their particular household, definitely determines what is ahead for future relationships.
The essay “Young Love” by Tiffany Sharples perfectly illustrates how we develop as people in society and how love has a major impact in each stage of our life. Love and the way we act around people could either have a positive or negative impact, depending on how we approach the person. Actions speak louder then words. Sharples main purpose for writing this essay is to inform the reader that falling in love is a wonderful thing, we just need to take it slow and not rush the process.
ReplyDeleteOne significant idea that Sharples’ desires to convey to her audience is that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire." This quote portrays romance as more than just liking someone. Having a romantic relationship with someone is much more than that and for it to be executed properly both parties need experience. An individual must go through heart breaks throughout their past relationships in order to grasp the concept of love to its full potential. This will not always come easy in the relationship and you will most likely have ups and downs that you will achieve together.
I agree with this quote mainly because young love or any love at all isn't an easy thing to do. Some might disagree because they might really love someone based on their personality or looks, buts what Sharple is trying to convey is that love is much more than that and it takes a lot more time and patience to actually have a romantic relationship with a significant other. Famous people today feel very entitled to start dating someone or even marrying someone strictly based off of their “name” or bank account. This in turn usually doesn't end well because their was no love attached to their relationship, it was strictly business. Eventually the relationship ends up getting broken off or filing for a divorce.
ReplyDeleteThe essay “young love” by Tiffany Sharples is essentially about how “love” is developed and used throughout our lives. Sharples explains that even at a young age children begin to learn how love can benefit their lives. As children grow older, their understanding and skills pertaining to love increase. During this time, their sexual interest in the opposite sex also begins to increase. When children get to adolescence, there is a big jump of intensity of sexual attraction between the opposite sexes.This is the time when trial and error takes place. The skills needed to preserve a relationship as an adult is learned during this time.
The author's purpose in writing this article is to demonstrate how love and romance is a skill that needs to be acquired through time and experience. When pondering about this, many people may believe adolescence is when most of these skills are learned. Most have experienced the jump of hormones during this time period and the increase of attraction to the opposite sex. While this may be true, the skills learned as a toddler role playing or the behaviors of each sex shown during elementary school must not be forgotten. These times in a person's life are also crucial in developing their romantic skills as they grow older. One significant point the author makes is the correlation between early sexual behavior and a volatile home. The author showed a study of children ages 11 to 13 that provided evidence to the correlation. In the study, 2 percent of the children were sexually active. What these children had in common was the hostile home environment they lived in. In hindsight, this correlation seems to make sense. There's a good chance these children were looking for love and warmth elsewhere.
The quote "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire.” is extremely relatable to the article. As shown by the article, romance is a skill that takes years to fine tune and takes a lot of effort. The rate of which some people become proficient in the skill varies, therefore it may take someone even longer. I agree with this quote. Romance is a skill that is intertwined with a person's identity, which in and on itself takes years for a person to understand. Romance is also vary emotional, and can be taxing for many people. Because trial and error is such a big part of learning, many people may find it hard to keep going in their romantic endeavors. In the psychology class I took last year, I learned how the feeling of “falling in love” eventually fades and the people in the relationship begin to need to put in more effort to keep the relationship going. This is when the partners in the relationship show their commitment to it, and it may be the hardest part since those feelings from the beginning of the relationship have faded.
Young Love by Tiffany Sharples is about love and how the way children are brought up can affect the ability to have romance and a loving relationship. The purpose of the essay is to inform people that love can happen at any age, regardless of what a person or child has learned or not learned in life and it can be expressed in many ways.
ReplyDeleteSharples explains an idea on how even the treatment of infants can have a strong connection to how “loving” they are in life. Sharples states that infants must be given love by using the sense of touch. Holding a baby, will actually help the baby grow psychologically. Even the premature babies that were touched turned out better than those who weren’t. “...data have shown that premature babies who are regularly touched fare much better than those who aren’t” (Sharples 419). Children who grow up in a loving home are shown to carry out that love in their lives. Just as those child who are exposed to a non healthy environment growing up can lead them to carry out similar issues. The way a child is brought up has an enormous effect on their life.
Sharples’ argument is how like language, romance is a hard skill to learn. Everyone is brought up speaking a certain language based on their culture. That language is learned in a person’s early life and even expands as life goes on. Romance is similar. Love and affection is learned through a person’s early life through their parents. The romance will expand just as language, it might not be easy but the skills can be acquired. The skill can be related to any form of learning. Learning how to ride a bike for example. The more it’s done the more better a person can become. Romance is a skill that someone can keep building if they put in the effort.
This essay “Young Love” by Tiffany Sharples describes the different forms of love people express from their childhood to adulthood. As you get older and as you embark on more experiences, you learn about yourself and how you can express love. Sharples discusses the idea that we are instantly preparing to develop relationships from the moment we are born. As children we feel affection towards the adults who take care of us, and as we grow we feel romantic affection for others.
ReplyDeleteAccording to Sharples, “Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire.” Romance is not easy, sometimes relationships can be a struggle to maintain. Unlike language which we become fluent in at a very young age, romance is something we never stop learning about. We continue to develop romantic skills all throughout our lives.
I definitely agree with this essay. Every person you meet, every relationship you are in teaches you a lesson that will help you with the next one until you finally find the one that sticks. When one relationship fails, you know what to look out for the next time you start one up. Although the end of a relationship may be devastating at first, everything happens for a reason and things can only go up from there.
The Article “Young Love” By Tiffany Sharples is about how we learn to love from the beginning of our lives, but in different ways. During the different stages of life you interact with different people at different times. In your toddler stage you trust anyone who will give you attention. In your childhood stage you create bonds with people who you can share emotions with. In the puberty stage you look for someone who is like them, boys go with boys and girls go with girls. The adulthood stage you look for that someone who you share an everlasting bond with, someone you can love forever.
ReplyDeleteAs toddlers we make connections with the people around us, and smile at anyone that will smile back. Children going through the toddler stage need to be cared for at all times, requiring the trust of someone who pay attention them. As children move into the babyhood stage they require less attention, they make new connections with others since mommy or daddy don’t pay as much attention to them as they used to. They begin to trust others who share the same emotions. The puberty stage is when children are starting to find themselves, and that they have desires and wants in life. Adulthood is a major change from childhood. As adults you look to make connections with people you can really trust, you look for someone who can make you happy, and fulfill your wants and desires.
The main idea of this story is you will never understand love entirely. People constantly believe that if they have found someone that they love they understand what love really is. Sharples states “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire.” This quote also ties into the fact that we will never really understand love, because everyone loves differently that’s why love is so hard to understand. Some people are more open to others, while others are more reserved in how they show their feelings. Love is just like a person, everchanging and everlasting.
Karen Lopez
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10/24/17
The essay “Young love” is about how at a young age we start to learn how to love from when we are a babies to when we become adults. These experiences along the way helps us learn about love for the future to maybe love someone else. Love is one of the difficult topics for a person to understand but yet somehow we learn from the different type of relationships we have like family, friends, and a significant other. As you grow up, you discover the stages of love. The author’s purpose was to tell how love can teach us many lessons in life and with the influences and experiences that love give us is partly who we become. You start to learn your likes and dislikes. One significant idea that the author Tiffany Sharples wanted to communicate with the audience was that at different ages there is different experiences of love. Like babies you learn to love your parents, the toddler stage you start to learn about sensual pleasures, when you’re a kid you learn about emotions, when you’re a teenager you learn from flirting to sexually active, and as an adult it is when start to learn the understanding the views of Love.
Sharples argues that “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever call on to acquire”. Love isn’t easy to understand even with all the relationships we have had through our life. From experiences we had, everyone has different perspectives about love. Everyone has their own way to loving someone which can sometimes be a challenge depending on the situation. Love does not always lead to happiness but it could also lead to sadness which effects people who they become in the future. It is what shapes us as a person with the love we receive.
I do agree that romance is one of the hardest skills because love is complicated in many ways. Not everyone loves the same as everyone else. So when it comes to loving someone it’s either you get the results you want or not. A lot of people don’t understand love because there’s people who have bad experience with it or either good experiences it’s all depends on how the person’s perspective on love.