SCHOLARS!!! PLEASE STUDY THIS ASSIGNMENT IN PARTS.
- YOU ARE ASKED TO COMPLETE A WRITING TASK IN LIEU OF IN PERSON CLASS ON THURSDAY
- YOU ARE ASKED TO PRINT A VARIETY OF ARTICLES AND ACTIVELY READ THEM IN ORDER TO PARTICIPATE IN OUR WRITING WORKSHOP ON 11/16
- STUDY THE FISHER VIDEO.. TAKE AS MANY NOTES AS YOU CAN... THE LOVE WORKSHOP BEGINS ON 11/16. IT WILL BE FOLLOWED BY A MINI LECTURE ON TYPES OF LOVE !
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PART 1 - PRINT PAPER 2
https://docs.google.com/document/d/18f9PIW87KZFf4ABKohim7xnApTPqGxM60pL8tf8gm20/edit?usp=sharing
Prepare for a class FISHBOWL NEXT TUESDAY!!!!!!!!! Let us be clear that Sharples' essay is a psychological essay worth reading at any time.. the publishing date is irrelevant.. AS ISSSSSSS FISHER.. she is a LOVE GURU... she has done immense research in the field and her TED talks are SUPERBBBBBBBBBBB>.. she has MANY recent articles and she is ONE OF THE very SIGNIFICANT driving forces behind online dating.. such as MATCH . com... her TED talks are few but profound... there are others and you are welcome to watch at your leisure.. PLease follow the directions for Thursday!
1. PRINT & ACTIVELY Read the following article " Young Love" by Tiffany Sharples
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B-oPG8xeJv2dcm9wbW1xTjZVZ1k/view?usp=sharing
2. Print and Actively Read "Teenagers in Love" by Nancy Kalish
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sticky-bonds/200906/teenagers-in-love
3.Additional Article to Print and Bring to Class for The Workshop :
"Adolescence and Fall In Love" by Carl Pickhardt
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/surviving-your-childs-adolescence/201206/adolescence-and-falling-in-love
4. I added this!!! Philosophy ON LOVE !
https://www.iep.utm.edu/love/
**** LISTEN TO HELEN FISHER !!!! THE BRAIN IN LOVE AND ACTIVELY TAKE NOTES!!!!!!!!!!!
A REMINDER !!! WE DO NOT HAVE CLASS IN PERSON on THURSDAY
WRITITNG ASSIGNMENT DUE BY MIDNIGHT 11/11 - Place your response as a comment. This is not a PUBLISHED WRiting PIECE.. This will count as ATTENDANCE and CLASSWORK!
WRITITNG ASSIGNMENT DUE BY MIDNIGHT 11/11 - Place your response as a comment. This is not a PUBLISHED WRiting PIECE.. This will count as ATTENDANCE and CLASSWORK!
Please PROOFREAD For Grammar and SPELLING! PUT YOUR BEST FOOT FORWARD - YOU ARE A SCHOLAR IN PROFESSOR BRADY'S CLASS!!
Sharples argues that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire."discuss this quote as it relates to the article.
Do you agree or disagree? Why? draw a connection to the outside world (something you read about or learned about - Connect to an article.. connect to pop culture.. a song.. film, story, tv show, etc )
PREPARE FOR WORKSHOP 3 - THIS WILL TAKE PLACE ON 11/16 - YOU WILL NEED YOUR NOTES FROM THE HW IN ORDER TO PARTICIPATE.. ACTIVELY LISTEN TO THE TED TALK.
"The Brain in Love" - Workshop 3 will take place on 11/16 _____
WATCH THE VIDEO TAKE NOTES !!!!!
THINK ABOUT THE PATTERNS OF WRITING A COMPARE/CONTRAST ESSAY. YOU WILL NEED TO KNOW THIS FOR PAPER 2.
Part II - of the Love Categories will go into Workshop 3 on 11/16 and 11/18
We are currently in the LOVE/FRIENDSHIPS/HAPPINESS SEGMENT OF THIS CLASS. THIS WILL INCLUDE ALL ARTICLES AND LECTURES THAT RELATE TO THE ABOVE THEMES IN RELATIONSHIP TO OUR UNIT. All three themes will be introduced in Paper 2.
Sharples argues that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire."discuss this quote as it relates to the article.
Do you agree or disagree? Why? draw a connection to the outside world (something you read about or learned about - Connect to an article.. connect to pop culture.. a song.. film, story, tv show, etc )
PREPARE FOR WORKSHOP 3 - THIS WILL TAKE PLACE ON 11/16 - YOU WILL NEED YOUR NOTES FROM THE HW IN ORDER TO PARTICIPATE.. ACTIVELY LISTEN TO THE TED TALK.
"The Brain in Love" - Workshop 3 will take place on 11/16 _____
WATCH THE VIDEO TAKE NOTES !!!!!
THINK ABOUT THE PATTERNS OF WRITING A COMPARE/CONTRAST ESSAY. YOU WILL NEED TO KNOW THIS FOR PAPER 2.
Part II - of the Love Categories will go into Workshop 3 on 11/16 and 11/18
We are currently in the LOVE/FRIENDSHIPS/HAPPINESS SEGMENT OF THIS CLASS. THIS WILL INCLUDE ALL ARTICLES AND LECTURES THAT RELATE TO THE ABOVE THEMES IN RELATIONSHIP TO OUR UNIT. All three themes will be introduced in Paper 2.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with the statement made by Sharples. Romance is a skill that is difficult to learn and can be learned when a person becomes comfortable enough with their significant other. For example the video " The Brain In Love" states " the comfort to speak to each other openly, I feel like that is absolutely essential" (27:36). This quote has a connection to the article "Adolescence and Fall In Love" by Carl Pickhardt. In this article it's stated that when teenagers fall in love it's one of the most complex endeavors they'll fall into. This backs up the point that romance is difficult to acquire. However, it's in these teenage years where we learn about romance and develop as people. Being comfortable and having these teenage relationships all further help someone become better at romance.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the quote by Sharples from the article, “Young Love”. The article explains how unlike language, romance is learned in different stages. This all starts when you are a baby and continues through your adolescent years. In the video “The Brain in Love”, Helen Fisher discusses how the brain works when we are in love. She states something that is very similar to the quote by Sharples, “Love is in us, it is deeply embedded in the brain. Our challenge is to understand each other” (Fisher 15:34). This connects to how Sharple explains in her article that love is the hardest thing to learn. We are programed to want and need love, but it takes years to understand how to love. It may take many tries to figure out how to make a relationship work or what we want from a partner. Therefore, first love in teenage years doesn’t always last. This can be shown in the article “Teenagers in Love” by Jessica Schrader. She states that “ It is rare now to marry a first love. Today’s teenagers date not for mate selection but for love” (Schrader 2). Even though teenage love is as real as adult love, many teens don’t get into a relationship thinking about marriage they may just get in a relationship to feel wanted or needed.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sharples when she says that love is one of the hardest skills that one learns in their life. In Sharples' article, she explains how love isn’t like learning a new language or learning how to walk. It is more complex than that. Love takes a lot of time and steps to be able to understand. Love can be different for a lot of people. Some might find love faster than others. Love is not a certain thing for everyone. Love is a complex thing and at times we think that love will last forever but for some, it doesn’t. In the article “Adolescence and Falling In Love” Lybi Ma says, “ Love is risky because the person we love the most can hurt us the worst. Love that feels forever does not necessarily last forever” (4). Lybi Ma is trying to convey to her readers that love isn’t easy and it takes time, patience, and sometimes pain to achieve it. At times love can be difficult but one needs to learn from these experiences to grow and finally, one day find someone that they will love forever.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sharples’s argument. Love is not a thing. It’s not an object you chuck at attractive people or a commodity you barter with. Nobody wants to admit and reveal their vulnerabilities, and insecurities. Love is not a noun. It’s an action, a conscious choice, a verb We all try. We all seek love. Bruce Lee once said in an interview, “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” True love that stems from a friendship usually means that you feel at ease in witnessing each other. In most cases that ease seems to come from a sense of deep similarity. It is hard to find yourself in another person. Those who have been hurt by broken relationships in the past often hurt other people in a dysfunctional form of self-protection. The most common reason why it’s so hard to fall in love is a fear of commitment. Labels can terrify some people, but for others, the uncertainty of where the relationship stands are also terrifying. Whether you’re reluctant to make things official or reluctant to enter an unofficial relationship, committing to someone means potentially getting hurt, so you may be avoiding commitment altogether.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sharple's argument that romance is one of the hardest skills to obtain. Love is not something you are born with, it is a trait, a set of emotions one builds through experiences with significant others. Surely one may say that they love you to their parents at an early age, but they don't truly know what love is, as they have yet to fully experience it. I believe Pickhardt says it best when he states " They don’t experience in a single relationship that magical match that includes: sexual attraction, mutual enjoyment, emotional knowing, social compatibility, sensitive consideration, physical affection, friendship feeling, and romantic excitement all combining to create a sense of caring, commitment, and completeness that make the other person the only one for you" (Pickhardt, 2). Love has so many different congruous parts that one has to truly understand and feel in a relationship to be in “real love.” It is an experience that not many people candidly acquire but once/ if they do, that relationship will change their life forever. As once you’ve felt all the “requirements” to be in love, one will further be influenced by that person both positively or negatively, physically, and emotionally.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with the statement made by Sharples when she states that "Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire" (Sharples 1). When we learn a new skill and apply it to the real world or our outside life we are trying to understand the purpose of it. The same applies when dealing with romance and love, love isn't like any other skill it is more complicated and may take a lot of time for certain people. Many people look for love in a relationship, in family or friends but love isn't easy to obtain, sometimes loving someone too much can be the worst or the best depending on the person. Love is a very complicated topic, we all want love in our life by the people around us or the new relationships we may create but it is a time consuming process that may take long to acquire. Shannon Leto once said "Love is a dangerous thing, it can be great and it can be awful. It might break or break your life. It could even change you as a person." This goes to express the idea that love isn't easy but very complex, loving someone can be very dangerous at times which will have a huge affect on each other. Some of us are lucky to find true love in this world, it can be an astonishing adventure with many obstacles ahead of time.
I agree with Sharples's argument that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire". Love is a skill that takes time and progresses as we get older. Babies, toddlers, school age kids, adolescents, and adults all feel love differently. Romance is a hard skill to be called on to acquire because love gives us a deep sense of caring and completeness that might be life changing. According to Carl Pickhardt, "The experience is all consuming - so each is alway's on the other's mind...It is a merged relationship - so each one feels part of the other, not quite whole when they are not together" (1). Love can be so consuming because, as Pickhardt mentioned, the depth of caring is more complexed and compelling than they have ever felt before. The love being so consuming makes problems more intense in a relationship. Love creates obstacles and problems that make romance so difficult. Something as significant like a break up could be so life shattering that it affects that person for the rest of their lives. These breakups and experiences are experiences to learn from. These experiences help our love and relationships grow.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sharpie when she argues that “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire”. It is a skill we learn from very young and we never really master. It is a complex emotion that releases dopamine in the brain when we are in love and can be as addictive as a drug according to Helen Fisher. Love and romance is something that has been the base of aspects of life according to philosophers and yet we still haven’t mastered it. There is however one thing that almost all people can agree with is love comes in many forms and should never be dismissed, along with the feelings that go along with it.
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Professor Brady
“Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire.” This quote by Sharples emphasizes that love isn’t easy. I agree with her argument because love is a feeling that you develop, no matter how much you fight it, for the right person it’ll be there. Maintaining a healthy, loving relationship gets difficult at all times and might drain you, however with emotional attachment and the drive to love, it’s easy to get past the rough days. This connects to the article, Adolescence and Falling in Love. For example it says, “When teenagers fall in love, what have they fallen into? The answer is, into a depth of caring more complex and compelling than they have known before.” (Pickhardt, 1). I draw this connection because Pickhardt also expresses the idea that love isn’t easy, it’s a complex set of emotions, a deeper feeling to care about someone. A feeling completely new, and hard to acquire.
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Professor Brady
I agree with Sharples because romance, just like language, draws on the nature of the self and our ability to navigate and express ourselves to others. How we convey our thoughts and feelings relies heavily on the assumption that we’re conscious enough of them in the first place--knowing what to say before one wants to express it, and then, from there, expressing it in a manner which is meaningful and coherent to the specified listener. As Bennet Helm says in Love, Friendship & the Self, “In valuing something, the focus of my pattern is a person (me), and the thing may be a sub focus of the larger structure of values that constitute my identity.” Thus, as is with romance, the quality of care and value we put forth to others is determined by the ability by which we understand ourselves and the processes we use to determine meaning; it all relies on our thoughts, and the compass by which we determine value is guided by our “selves.”
David Chung
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sharples' quote from the article "Young Love." Sharples' article explains how learning to love isn't like learning a new language or walking. It's more complicated than that. Love is a trait, a collection of emotions developed through interactions with significant others. According to Carl Pickhardt, “Life changing is how “in-love” feels in adolescence because it is a far more moving and compelling relationship than the young people have known before. The experience is all consuming — so each is always on the other’s mind. This is the person they want to spend all their time with — so time with good friends is often set aside” (1). Love is a drug that can’t be bought. Love is like any other drug, it has a hold on you. When someone is in love they do thing that would never be possible prior to love. Love makes one open up and become vulnerable. Therefore, a significant event such as a breakup can be so life-changing that it affects that person for the rest of their lives. These breakups and experiences are lessons to be learned. These encounters contribute to the development of our love and relationships.
Nikolle D. Mendoza
DeleteRomantic love can lead to great emotions that often, when it is deeply, people can become obsess with that sense of feeling. The idea that Helen Fisher showed of loving each other after many years, can be seen in older people who still have romantic love towards each other, because as Fisher stated "Love is the most addictive substance in the world" if it is well responded and rejection is not often present, it can last for many years. I definitely agree with Fisher when she explained that as she also stated "Almost nobody gets out of love alive", love is also a mystery but it has its different emotions, including ups and downs that most of the people will have to experience at some point in their lives.
Jiya Singh
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sharples that “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire”. Just like language, romance is a complex emotion. Finding the right person and the right connection is very complex. A mix of emotions, behaviors, and beliefs associated with strong feelings of affection, protectiveness, warmth, and respect for another person is called love. Love is like a drug that you are possessed with. In the video Brain in Love by Helen Fisher she states that “Romantic love is an obsession, it possesses you” (5:04). It illustrates that you can’t stop thinking about your significant other, you lose your sense of self. It is a drug that consumes you.
I agree with the statement Sharples makes, "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire". This quote from "Young Love" demonstrates that like language, love is a very difficult skill to obtain. Love is something that is built through experiences, developing, and trust. That is what is needed for love to grow and develop. "The experience is all consuming - so each is alway's on the other's mind...It is a merged relationship - so each one feels part of the other, not quite whole when they are not together"(Pickhardt 1). People that have developed love go on to feel more connected to that person, wanting to spend their time with them, feeling like like the other is a part of who they are.
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EGL 101 : Composition & Rhetoric
November 11th, 2021
Fall 2021 Professor J. Mignano -Brady
Sharples states, "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire." Tiffany Sharples argues that love is a challenging skill to conquer. I agree with this argument, to begin with everyone is different, nobody has the same emotions nor the same heart. Some “love tactics” or expressions may not work the same on other people, so right off the bat things get complicated going from person to person. Furthermore there is the argument that teenage love is not real love. In the article “Teenagers in Love” by Nancy Kalish, Kalish states, “”I love you, Mom and Dad," with full appreciation and at face value. If adults accept that teenagers can love parents truly, then shouldn't they also accept that teen romances are "real" love?” (Kalish 3). Love gets exceptionally complex, especially when we are young when our hormones are acting strangely. Some of us do not figure out love during this time when it matters most, then it becomes complex to show affection and love furtherly complicating this love factor. Overall there is an abundance of factors towards love, all of which are complicated, thus provings Sharples argument that romance is one of the hardest skills to acquire.
I agree with Sharples’ argument from “Young Love” as they’re both complex aspects of life that get developed through time. Some of us are able to get the hang of it quickly as others might have difficulties along the way, which is normal because we keep gaining new knowledge as we acquire new experiences throughout our lifetime. I think that without a doubt that time is the best form of letting people explore what love has to offer. You could get your heart broken, have a crush on someone, figure out that you’re not attracted to the opposite sex; there’s endless possiblities. As Carl E Pickhardt, “Love is risky because the person we love the most can hurt us the worst. Love that feels forever does not necessarily last forever. And we can’t always measure the other person’s love for us by our love for them.”
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sharples quote and would like to add that love is a language in itself; Like language, love is difficult to understand at times, different for everyone, and is always changing. The perspective of love changes with age as well, and some things that are major at one age may seem insignificant later on in life, for example "Don't worry! Boyfriends/girlfriends are like buses ... a new one comes along every 10 minutes!" This was not helpful, and it was not funny. The loss of a first love can be so crushing to some teenagers that they become suicidal"(Kallsh 3). Kallsh explains the perspectives of love in the moment and of a person who has been in this situation before. In this example, it explains the effects of the loss of a first love. Can a teenager overreact? of coarse they can but, others may be serious and never forget their first love.
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Professor Brady
11/11/21
Sharples states that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire." Language becomes a social barrier. It can disconnect people and you lose the opportunity to create bonds solely because you can’t communicate efficiently with a person of another language. Romance has its barriers too. It can be cultural or religious barriers. Romance isn’t something that can be grabbed physically, it is an invisible surface that we have to break through in order to acquire it. This is what makes romance such a difficult quest to obtain. William Shakespeare expressed this difficulty through the story of the star-crossed lovers, Romeo and Juliet. In the tale, Romeo and Juliet were of different households that loathed another. Although the two families they hail from were battling, they found romance through each other. This romance came with complications as the families forbade the love between Romeo and Juliet and grew tensions between the households.Trying to overcome this dilemma, they unfortunately lost their lives trying to be together. Romance may not be the same in the modern world as it is in the time period Romeo and Juliet was based on, however it still displays the struggles of romance that can happen even in the year 2021. Families can have that tension that makes it difficult to be with a lover. Other obstacles are prevalent in the journey for romance. Maybe it is simply difficult to communicate with others or it’s difficult to find the person in which romance can be acquired. The difficulty varies depending on the individual and their situation. Romance can be spontaneous or it can be something that comes naturally through time and experience. This is what makes romance one of the hardest skills to acquire.
Sharples says that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire." this quote tells the reader about how romance isn't something people are born with and it comes with time and experience but even with those things romance differs from person to person depending on their love language and their connection to the other person. In the article “Adolescence and Falling In Love” Lybi Ma says, “ Love is risky because the person we love the most can hurt us the worst. Love that feels forever does not necessarily last forever” (4). this quote also exemplifies the power that love has on people and how anyone can get heart broken and it doesn't matter how much experience or time they have spent with that person. Lybi Ma also tries to tell the reader that love requires patience, determination and support.
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DeleteEGL 101
Professor Brady
11/11/21
Sharples says that "along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire." this quote tells the reader about how romance isn't something people are born with and it comes with time and experience but even with those things romance differs from person to person depending on their love language and their connection to the other person. In the article “Adolescence and Falling In Love” Lybi Ma says, “ Love is risky because the person we love the most can hurt us the worst. Love that feels forever does not necessarily last forever” (4). this quote also exemplifies the power that love has on people and how anyone can get heart broken and it doesn't matter how much experience or time they have spent with that person. Lybi Ma also tries to tell the reader that love requires patience, determination and support.
I agree with Sharples statement that "Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we'll ever be called on to acquire" (Sharples 1). Love is something that is learned, it does not come easily. Depending on the person, love can be much more complicated than many may believe. People struggle with balancing their emotions and their partners at the same time. Therefore, Sharples makes a valid point, love is a very difficult skill to acquire and it takes time to learn how to do it correctly. People “who underestimate the strength of the bond—or the impact of the loss”(Kalish 2), will be shocked or in pain because of the hardships that come along with love. Love is so powerful in many ways and one must understand how to cope with it and not take it for granted.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with the statement mentioned by Sharples that, “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire”. My reasoning for this is because of how general of a concept romance is. No matter the person, no one will have an identical viewpoint on or method to romance. According to Kalish, “Parents question the ability of teenagers to know what love is, yet they accept their teenagers' statements, "I love you, Mom and Dad," with full appreciation and at face value” (3). This quote displays a contradiction in a parent’s view on teenage romance. Although a parent believes that their child is too inexperienced to grasp the concept of love, they still accept the same love when directed towards themselves.
In the article "Young Love", Tiffany Sharples stated “along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called on to acquire. This quote is completely accurate in that love is all over the world. There are so many kinds of love and more often than not, people tend to mistake a casual and emotional love for someone as romantic love. Helen Fisher stated, "Love is an addiction--- you focus on the person, you obsessively think about the person " (7:02), in the Ted Talk "The Brain In Love". Romantic love is like an addiction as Fisher also claims. Love is a very serious and powerful emotion. Love is a word that has been thrown around so easily in society that it seems people have lost their knowledge of the meaning of the word "love".
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ReplyDeleteI agree with the statement “Along with language, romance may be one of the hardest skills we’ll ever be called to acquire” by Sharples. Love is a skill that we learn from very young and can possibly never master or figure out how it truly works. It can feel like something we enjoy the feeling of, but it can be hard to know if everyone can stay happy in the relationship. Since adolescents can be feeling this way for the first time, things can go wrong. This connects to the article” Adolescence and Falling In Love”. For example, “There can be a sense of a desperate attachment — so the joy of having each other is coupled with the fear of losing each other. And there are conflicts of a painful kind as they wrestle with issues of freedom and possessiveness, honesty and deception, trust and jealousy, togetherness and separateness, satisfaction and sacrifice.” (Pickhardt 1).We may not understand what may be happening in the beginning because it is a new feeling. Love is something that we get better at and understand more of the older someone gets.
Nikolle D. Mendoza
ReplyDeleteRomantic love can lead to great emotions that often, when it is deeply, people can become obsess with that sense of feeling. The idea that Helen Fisher showed of loving each other after many years, can be seen in older people who still have romantic love towards each other, because as Fisher stated "Love is the most addictive substance in the world" if it is well responded and rejection is not often present, it can last for many years. I definitely agree with Fisher when she explained that as she also stated "Almost nobody gets out of love alive", love is also a mystery but it has its different emotions, including ups and downs that most of the people will have to experience at some point in their lives.